Sincerity. It’s not what you say but what you do that counts.
I’m sure we’ve all had to encounter an individual that said they would do something for you or with you and then in reality just don’t do it.
We as the gracious people that we are forgive them and give them the benefit of the doubt, especially in this day and age where we all have so much to do with such little time.
Or you go to a shop and the shop assistant says “it really suits you” – you like the compliment but you’re not sure whether it’s genuine or not. Is the shop assistant just trying to make a sale? Does he or she reeeaaallly mean it? Who knows…except him or her.
Not so long ago… no really it wasn’t that long ago.. a man or woman was known and well regarded if he or she was ‘a man/woman of his word’, this meant they could be trusted because you would KNOW they would do what they said they were going to do.
What ever happened to such high ideals? Nowadays, this trait is taken so lightly.
People with the best of intentions (I think) say they will do something and then just don’t follow it through.
It may be admirable to say:
“I’ll be there”
or “I’ll help out”
or my mother’s most hated phrase “If you need ANYTHING just let me know”…
but if you don’t actually go and do what you’ve uttered… your spoken word doesn’t count for much in the future.
We all need to start thinking (just a little) before we make promises.
If you pledge money for charity, pay it. If you say you will look at something for someone, do it.
Make time for it and make it happen.
Benjamin Franklin (1706 – 1790) said “If you want something done, ask a busy person”.
This is so true. There are people out there in leadership positions with so many looking toward them for help and guidance, yet they don’t turn anyone away and always do what they say they will.
Then there are us mere mortals who think we are busy because we go to work and have other daily responsibilities and can’t manage to just simply keep our word. Yes we forget, or are too tired, or just can’t be bothered, but we fail to realise how our actions (or lack of action) may affect others.
People think it may be impolite to not say “come round and visit anytime” but if I don’t mean it – I’m not going to say it. I’d rather be sincere to the individual and also to myself.
If I know I can’t help with something or I wouldn’t be able to cope with a certain situation, I’ve got to be honest enough with myself first and foremost before I commit knowing full well that I’ll struggle with it.
People don’t want to hear what we may think sounds good in a particular situation, they want to see the action.
Our children should be surrounded by positive role models; people that show that things like making it to appointments and schedules on time, keeping promises and generally doing what you say you will are important elements of good character.
These things are universally important, in business, in social life, in everything.
Sincerity is crucial to a positive existence. If we are not sincere to ourselves, how can we be sincere to others?
Mahatma Ghandi (1869–1948) said “Happiness is when what you think, what you say and what you do, are in harmony”
And so in conclusion, Oscar Wilde, hit the nail on the head; the importance of being earnest is… erm…really important… don’t you think?
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