The Truth Hurts

The Truth

Yesterday I was served a cold truth by someone close to me. I felt like I had been struck with something sharp and almost struggled to breathe initially because of the shock. Why did those 11 words affect me like this? Because I knew that they were true and deep down I recognised the problem.

Being told something negative you know too well from someone else can really hurt… it can pierce right through you until you start dealing with it.

I spent most of yesterday feeling terribly sad and upset with myself. I was really despondent which isn’t like me.
I wasn’t upset with the person who had managed to kill my spirit with just one sentence because deep in my core I knew what they had said needed to be dealt with. For when they had uttered those words so simply and quickly, it hadn’t even occurred to them how they would affect me. And why would they? They weren’t setting out to hurt me intentionally and in reality if what they had said was not true, I would have just brushed it off as an opinion and carried on with my day.

Instead my life stopped, I went through the motions of the day and got through it but inside I was on pause and I couldn’t move past it.

Later on in the day, I talked about it, I cried, I prayed to God to help me stop what I was doing and then I talked about it some more. So today, I feel a bit more positive and ready to pick myself up and try again.
I’m going to try to stop doing what I know is wrong.

I’m going to try and deal with it because I know deep down it’s the only way for me to be truly happy with myself. Deep down to my core.

Aldous Huxley’s words come to mind here…

“Facts do not cease to exist because they are ignored.” 

Have you ever been confronted with a harsh truth? How did you deal with it? Is there something that you know that you’re doing wrong deep down but don’t want to confront it because it’s too hard to deal with?




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20 thoughts on “The Truth Hurts

  1. Yes, I’ve been dished up much “cruel to be kind” sentiment. The thing is though, if we have the courage to take it on board…. but be realistic but kind to ourselves during self inquiry…. we will come out the other side a new person.


    • You’re so right! It’s hard hearing it from someone else and sometimes we can let it take too much effect. I agree it takes a certain kind of courage to face up to the truth – clearly we are brave people you and I! 🙂


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