Someone I know lost their brother last week.
He was going down the stairs towards his car, as he did everyday for years on end. However on this particularly tragic evening he fell and hit his head on the way down.
He damaged his brain and two days later was pronounced dead. I cannot express the sheer shock and pain the family are going through and also what I felt in my heart upon hearing about it.
You see we try so hard to stay safe, play life safely by avoiding dangerous incidents, but when your death is written it is written. A morbid thought I know but true.
“In this world nothing can be said to be certain, except death and taxes.”
In reality, you are more likely to die around the corner from your house or even in your house than from a fall off a building or being hit by an accidental firearm discharge.
I spend or waste (however you want to look at it) a lot of time avoiding dangerous environments, germs etc but when you hear of tragedies such as the above, you are starkly reminded of what life is all about and how you cannot defy death or avoid it.
It can happen in your own home when you least suspect it.
I know that sounds so depressing but it’s a reminder to seize the day.
Go and see your friends and do whatever you’ve been putting off, because we plan and plan but how long have we really got?
I read an article today about the top 5 regrets of dying people…
Dying Regrets: ‘I Wish That I Had Let Myself be Happier’:
It got me thinking…
To summarise, dying people wish they hadn’t worked so hard, expressed themselves better, been true to themselves, stayed in touch with friends and let themselves be happier (from The Top Five Regrets of the Dying: A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing by Bronnie Ware).
If you ask people who are really happy, why they are happy, you’re very likely to get a similar answer from them all. And no I’m not talking about people that ‘look‘ happy, those with lots of money and big houses or millions of followers and fans.
I’m talking about those people who take each day as it comes, they’re not planning to obtain the perfect body, perfect house, dream car, dream job or dream holiday. They’re not sucked in to being told how or what their life should be.
They are aspiring to building bonds and better relationships with other people, helping others and being resourceful with what they’ve got and using it.
They are forgiving, don’t compare themselves to others and they are always always always grateful for what they have.
You know some of my best memories haven’t been in the finest of buildings or in the most prestigious of stores. My happiest memories are of the times when I hung out with the people I loved, walking and taking in the atmosphere (not taking photos! 😉 ).
The moments when some of them told me they once had to eat Weetabix with water (yes water eugh!) or when we were eating £2.00 ‘chicken burger with chips’ meals together, laughing and planning our next big adventure….. to the park(!)
It’s easy to say, I won’t be one of those people. I won’t have any regrets. In reality how many of us will actually seize the day, this month, even this whole year?
Life throws so many obstacles our way, but it also gives us repeated reminders of how short it is and how these obstacles will not remain forever, nor do they have to make your life stop.
Think about what you would like to do before you die, what are your goals (not materialistic)?
We like to not think about death, we see it as a negative thing.
However, it is possible to think about it as a finish line, which before you reach, you do all you can or at least allow yourself to be happy.
I’ll finish off with a short poem …
“Be happy with what you’ve got
You can do it
Believe it or not.
It’s not so hard to see
That you have an awful lot.
Be happy, my dear, with what you’ve got!”
– AD (Accidentally Reflective)
Find peace, seek the company of good people and do things that will benefit others.
Have no regrets. Die happy.
Whenever that may be… 🙂
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