When Life Takes Over

Hello everyone!

I realise I haven’t written anything in a while and I can only apologise.
Life just sort of took over!

We plan and schedule and then good old life just waltzes in all over everything!

Confucius said:

“Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated.”

Why do we insist on complicating things? Adding pressure upon ourselves when it really isn’t necessary?
Why can’t we allow ourselves to focus on one part of our lives if we need to?

Before the Easter break started, I made the decision to just enjoy the moments and not worry about work, what to write orย social media.
I let the chocolate and time with the kids turn my brain to mush and I switched off on one aspect of my life and switched on the other part – fully.

We do not remember days, we remember moments.
-Cesare Pavese

So I ate macarons and a tonne of chocolate (and lots of crisps and junk… diet what diet?!)…

Macarons and Easter Eggs

I spent time with my family soaking up history and of course lots of architecture…

Period Architecture

I met up with extended family from all over the country at a wedding which happened to be in a stunning setting.
It was truly wonderful to be around my loved ones, in such fantastic surroundings… photos of which I must share because beautiful architecture must be shared and appreciated ๐Ÿ™‚

Coombe Abbey

Approaching The Abbey (now a hotel and country park)


Coombe Abbey Entrance

Beautiful Entrance To The Abbey


Coombe Abbey Moat

The Moat Surrounding The Abbey


Coombe Abbey Turrets

Walking Across The Moat Over The Bridge


Coombe Abbey Gardens

The Abbey Gardens


Stunning Wedding Cake  (it was taller than me!)

Stunning Wedding Cake (it was taller than me!)

It has been lovely to be able to meet up with family and friends and just switch off. I came away with many happy memories.
I have felt slightly stressed subconsciously though because I haven’t written anything AT ALL!!!
As hard as we may try to focus on one aspect of our lives, it is near impossible to ignore the other parts.
I have so many projects in the pipeline and am not near completion with any of them. I feel the need to write!

And so I have come full circle and am now ready to add pressure to myself till something is achieved… I think I may turn up the pressure after this week is over…
Wish me luck! ๐Ÿ˜‰

Have you ever just switched off a part of your life to focus fully on another? Was it satisfying?

-AD ๐Ÿ™‚


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13 thoughts on “When Life Takes Over

  1. Only by accident when I’ve been on holiday to places with no network, and I’ve had to focus on Real Life all the time and it’s been wonderful but also driven me kind of nuts. Glad you’re back. The Abbey looks STUNNING.

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    • LOL! I know you what you mean! I’m not as ‘connected’ as you and I still struggled. I did pop on to twitter now and again but only for a few minutes so didn’t see much unless it was under my notifications.
      I have some housework going on right now so keep getting distracted with that. Hoping I’ll be back in to some kind of rhythm by next week. I need to think about what to write re nurturing for 1000Speak too! EEEK!
      The Abbey was sooo stunning – it’s medieval and quite gothic inside – I forgot to take pics in there. The grounds are stunning too. ๐Ÿ™‚

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      • I have felt literally as though I’ve been cut off from my lifeblood – dizzy and lightheaded and unable to concentrate and absolutely desperate to get back…not to ‘online’ per se, but to the relationships and connections there. Looking back, it’s likely because I DIDN’T have that sustaining relationship going on In Real, to calm and support me. So, eh!

        Keep distracted and keep getting your groove back. I got notification today that some people have DONE their 1000Speak post. I think I know WHAT I want to write…I just haven’t yet. And it’s soon!

        Ohhhhh I love grounds. There’s an abbey near us – Mottisfont – and they have THEE MOST AMAZING grounds. They’re stunning.

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      • Yes I totally can relate – if everyone you love and connect with are online then of course you couldn’t just switch off! I gets ya! ๐Ÿ™‚
        Omg people have already written theirs?!! I can’t even think of what I want to write about! My brain is seriously mushy at the moment lol!
        I love grounds too, esp in the summer, so peaceful and relaxing. ๐Ÿ™‚

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      • I know what I’m going to write, I just need to make it happen. Bit of a cheeky slant, really, but also a fun and interesting and different one. Not so humanist as…promotional. Kinda. I’m looking forward to writing it.

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      • Sounds great! Can’t wait to read it!!!
        I have no idea what I want to say or how – when I think about nurturing .. the only 2 things that come to my mind are apes and babies for some reason?! LOL!
        I don’t really want to write about either of those! Ha!

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  2. I do this periodically. I have to preserve time with my husband and kids. My husband travels a lot so when he’s home (mostly weekends) I typically don’t write and only get on Social Media while I’m drinking my morning coffee. But, if that time stretches to a week or so I get anxious also. And it’s more about the writing than social media. I always know my blogger friends will understand if I disappear for a week or so but I get very antsy if I don’t write. My husband has learned that if I’m really starting to get cranky to give me some time and space so I can write or I will not be that pleasant to live with!

    And the pictures! Oh, how I want to come to Europe and see every single historical structure and visit every single old building. Sighโ€ฆ one day.

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    • Snap! It seems we live parallel lives! I don’t have the time to get on social media or write as often as I like because of the amount I have to get through in the week on my own and then at the weekends and during the holidays when my husband is around we are always making up for lost time, heading outside etc so I can’t get online and write then either!
      I am hoping that once my youngest goes to full time school this September, I will be able to stick to a stricter schedule and get more done during the day… here’s hoping!
      Europe is A-mazing, the architecture is awesome. You HAVE to come – hopefully soon! Italy is my ultimate favourite… I want to see all of it one day ๐Ÿ™‚


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